Tag: grief and miscarriage

Goodbye Adrian (c) Marika Reinke 2015

Goodbye Adrian: A Story of Miscarriage (Jan 2015)

Goodbye Adrian: A Story of Miscarriage (c) Marika Reinke 2015
Goodbye Adrian: A Story of Miscarriage (c) Marika Reinke 2015

Through the echoes of death, love, blood, fear and sad slow tears we rode this goodbye learning that being lost in the unknowable, uncontrollable, unimaginable only brings wordless awe for the mystery of life.

All things happen for incomprehensible reasons. Souls were meant to meet. This soul needed a fleeting chance to feel our love and a name to be complete.

watercolor 16″ x 12″ 

about My Miscarriage

In 2008, I miscarried.  I sensed something was wrong and an early  7 week ultrasound proved the pregnancy was not viable.  Adrian had not developed past 5 weeks.  We grieved; our already-named baby, our hopes, our plans for our kids and our imaginary family.

I waited for the miscarriage to happen naturally.

Week by week went by and nothing happened.  I still felt pregnant, I was nauseous and irritable.  My confused body still wanted to tend to the Adrian’s lifeless form.  I felt weak, tired and sad in my waiting.  It was a time of intense numbness and many tears.

After 4 weeks, I began to miscarry and it went terribly wrong.  The bleeding was too heavy.  At the ER waiting room it went from somewhat concerning to intense and scary.  I passed out.  A black, cold, viscous faint that sucked my life force and took away my capacity to think.  I lost far too much blood.

I was revived and received an emergency D & C.  When I woke from the operation, I was enveloped in a deep sadness.  Adrian almost took me with him. I felt stuck and empty from the violent parting.  My capacity to create life had almost taken my own life.  

Untitled Chaos (c) Marika Reinke 2008
Untitled Chaos (c) Marika Reinke 2008 –  I painted after I miscarried 2008.

It is not a coincidence that I became pregnant with my son the same month that Adrian would have been born.  It was our last goodbye and parting blessing.

Miscarriage is a silent and common grief many women bare.  At least 10% – 35% pregnancies are estimated to end preemptively.


This painting was featured on the cover of the German magazine raum&zeit May 2016 issue.



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