20. what do you want?

“Mom! I don’t know what I want to be when I grow up.” An eye roll emphasized her tweeny exasperation. “I don’t care about what you are going to be.” I said. “You will be a lot of different things. I want an idea of what you want.” She shrugged, Read More …

19. memories

My dad’s main parenting objective was to make memories.  He created them with variety, skill, and simplicity. He walked with me. In hindsight, our most precious amblings were the modest ones; the everyday stroll to the bus stop.  We conversed like peers and discussed the color of the dawn, friendships Read More …

18. Mean Continued

After her threat, I retreated to my room. My heart heated up my boiling chest. My thinking spun. I served up my home, vacations, friends and family for her feasting.  Gratitude came wrapped in acidic betrayal. Up until then, I didn’t believe people could be like her. The reality wedged Read More …

17. Mean

I briefly had a foster sister as a Senior in high school. Before our sisterhood, she was a half-acquaintance I momentarily connected with and liked. Her dimpled charisma drew me.  One day, she called me with a faded plead and dreadful story. She ran away. Her home and family were Read More …

16. Improv

The frontal cortex is required for the mastery of practical skills. It’s the thinking and planning part of the brain that criticizes and frets about mistakes and perfection.  The inner critic pushes for better and always more. It envisions potential and maps a route. It’s an effective coach and motivator. Read More …

15. what do you do?

“What do you do all day when we are at school?” My son asked me. A pageant of vignettes marched before me. Days before he told his friends that I don’t work.  He really means I stay home to work, I reasoned, or did he?  It’s thorny to discern from Read More …

14. an unnatural

“This is impossible.” I thought as I stepped up to a climbing wall for the first time. That unworkable wall, in hindsight, was an un-challenging ladder. The excess of holds that littered it should have made it ridiculous not to make it to the top. I didn’t make it to Read More …

13. a hundred dollars

My kids’ teeth began rotting out of their mouth when we lived in Costa Rica.  Every time we went to the dentist they had more than one cavity or, even better, a new brand-spangled unfamiliar dirty-tooth syndrome. I shook with exasperation as the dentist handed me another bill. We were Read More …

12. consistency

About 8 years ago, I was an out of shape a mother of a 1 and 4-year-old too dedicated to my job and family to give time to my health. Tired of myself, I decided that I wanted to improve my fitness and my mood. Coming back from a good work Read More …

11. say equals do

I’m tired of our culture that prioritizes the right message, regardless of action. Pro-message politics have fundamentally shaken our trust.  Words manipulated to appease or influence now, only to be thrown away later, are an insult to communication. As a result, no action and no follow up takes its toll Read More …